Anger Management

4 root causes of anger and how to deal with it

Root cause of anger

What are the root causes of anger? It is harrowing to try to analyze and unearth past feelings. Therefore, it seems easier to remain angry than to find the true cause of anger. Anger is considered by psychology as a basic emotion. When it appears, our feelings, physiological reactions, and behaviors towards other people, animals or inanimate objects are affected. Anger or anger has a high negative effect, being displeasure and the tendency to physiological activation, two of its most important elements.

4 root causes of anger

Root cause of anger

In any part of the world, unexpected fires can start and feed through one of these four sources: oil, gas, scorching lava or methane. Similarly, anger can begin and be stirred by one of the following four sources:

1. Pain: When we are rejected or injured, we burst into anger, which is like a protective wall that prevents people from going through and prevents further injuries.

2. Injustice: We all have an internal moral code that establishes the sense of what is right and just and what is not. When we realize that an abuse has been committed against ourselves or others, we get angry. If we cling to the offense, the unsolved anger will grow and be nested in our hearts

3. Fear: When we worry, we are threatened, or we get angry at the change of circumstances, we are responding to fear. A frightened heart mistrusts God’s perfect plan for his life.

4. Frustration: When our efforts do not meet our expectations or that of others, our need to feel important is threatened. The frustration resulting from failure to meet our expectations is one of the main reasons to feel angry.

Why do we feel anger?

Root cause of anger

There are many common triggers of anger, such as when you are patient with someone’s negligence or brazenness, or when you notice that your opinion or efforts are not appreciated or ignored, or when discovering a lie, feeling betrayed by your partner or your friends, or before the provocations, mockery or injustice. Other causes of anger include memories of traumatic events that caused us pain or the feeling of helplessness and paralysis in front of abusive family members, partners or bosses.

Some triggers of anger have to do with ourselves. We can feel anger at not meeting our expectations or the expectations of others. Family taught us to expect from ourselves, from others and the world. Our personal history often fuels our anger reactions. For example, if we were not taught how to express anger properly, our frustrations can accumulate and make us feel very unhappy, such frustrations are simmering until they explode in a burst of irrepressible anger that often has terrible consequences. In other cases, changes in brain chemistry (consumption of anabolic steroids, alcohol, psychoactive substances, etc.) or underlying medical or psychiatric illnesses,

Causes and effects of anger

effects of anger

When you are angry, you can deal with your negative feelings through:

Expression: This is the act of transmitting your anger. The expression varies from a reasonable, rational argument to a violent outburst.

Suppression: This is an attempt to save your anger and possibly turn it into more constructive behavior. The suppression of anger, however, can cause your anger to turn on yourself or you can begin to express that anger through passive-aggressive behavior.

Try to calm down: This is when you manage to control your external behavior and your internal responses, and you use techniques to calm down and let your feelings subside.

Best way to handle anger?

control anger

Learn to calm down. Simple relaxation techniques such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery help to calm our states of anger. Performing slow exercises such as yoga, relax your muscles and calm you down and allow you to express your disagreement or discomfort more consciously and appropriately.

Fight against the effects of anger

Swami Sivananda says: “Anger is caused by real or imagined harm that implies an immediate desire for revenge. But that fire that is ignited against an enemy ends up burning it to oneself. It acts like a boomerang, harming the person who gets angry. ” This Hindu teacher teaches us that it is very difficult to fight anger in a frontal way. First, we must be aware that we are experiencing it and see it in action, placing ourselves in the here and now and try little by little to reduce its intensity, frequency, and duration of the episode. To extinguish it, it is necessary to strive to mitigate this uncontrolled and unpredictable emotional modification.

way of thinking

Modifying the way of thinking

This is what psychologists call “cognitive restructuring.” Irascible people tend to curse to insult and speak with very high-pitched terms that reflect their inner thoughts. When you are angry, your ideas tend to be very exaggerated and too dramatic. Try to replace negative thoughts with more reasonable ones before opening your mouth. The American Psychological Association (APA) recommends that, for example, instead of saying, “Oh, it’s the worst, everything collapsed,” you should say “It’s very frustrating and it’s normal for me to be upset, but It is not the end of the world, and I have to see the best way out of this. ” So, follow the root causes of anger and try to leave all of them from your entire life. Stay happy.

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