Like a boss– It is very common to hear that “I am not a little gold coin to please everyone”; is a very popular saying in Latin America objects even of songs and even movies because it has permeated for many years in popular belief.
But, did you know that there is an infallible way that if we put it into practice; the percentage of people that we like a boss will rise strongly? It is like that, yes there is a formula.
Surely you can think that you are not interested in falling well to all people because you are not a politician or anything like a boss.
But it turns out that in this world of connections, interpersonal relationships play a fundamental role in success and to please people – at least the majority because we know that all is impossible – can expand your chances of advantage over others.
Remember that we are emotional beings. If two people go to a job interview (both equally qualified for the position), surely the person in charge will choose the one with whom they got the best.
So take advantage of the recommendations that will help you raise points in your relationships with the people around you:
It will always be more pleasant to see a person who has a smile on his face to someone who does not. However it is not about becoming the participant of a beauty contest smiling falsely.
Try to make the smile sincere and do it with everyone, this brings warmth to your face, it will improve your mood and attract people instead of pushing them away.
Like a boss be polite
Saying please and thank you for many people is common sense, for others it is unfortunately not, so take advantage of your education.
Do not feel ashamed to say good morning / evening / night, apologize and treat everyone – absolutely everyone – with courtesy. Put these simple sentences into practice if you still do not do it and you will see how you differentiate yourself from the people around you.
A handshake with the right firmness conveys confidence, security, while a person who waves very gently or with great force automatically causes a bad impression in that aspect since the way of greeting says a lot about the individual.
Listen to people
It’s not just about listening to them, but about listening attentively, we can easily notice during a conversation when the other person is just wishing he or she has just spoken for her to say what she has in mind.
Do not be one of those, pay attention to the words and gestures of your interlocutor and do it with interest, this activity will win you many friends, since it is a way to show that you are not selfish and that you really care what the other person is communicating
Be a close person
It is very important your availability to others, the ease that people have to contact you must be taken into account, and a person who gives the feeling of being too busy away from others.
Be a collaborator and do not promise more than you can meet
This point is about balance. It is about having the disposition, the desire to help others when they ask for it or even without doing so, offer yourself.
Others like a boss who are willing to help, but nobody likes lies, so in that case it is preferable to leave the promises aside and go directly to action.
Allow your actions to speak for you. It is preferable to surprise people by giving more than they expected to do by making big promises that cannot be fulfilled and then turn against you later on.
Look people in the face and talk to them by name
Eye contact is of vital importance. Show that you are paying attention at the moment; it makes you close and transmits confidence. However, a penetrating look can be intimidating, one must be aware to reach the midpoint.
On the other hand, calling people by their name will always be pleasant for them, so exercise your memory and from now on consciously try to remember the name of the people who present you and include it during the written or oral conversations.
Give your opinion respectfully
A person of opinions and firm bases is attractive. Say what you think, always without disrespect to people around you.
Do yourself a favor, if you do not handle the topic on which you are going to say, better not speak in public? That will save you confrontations and even unnecessary enemies.
Take care of your physical appearance
We want to admit it or not, a well-dressed person who takes care of his personal appearance will always give a better impression and attract more people than someone who do not.
Do not lie
Everyone at some point of our way we have said a lie and we also know the consequences that these can bring.
If you want to be a person admired and loved by most people, avoid any kind of lies at all costs, this includes routine lies, even pretending to be someone you are not.
A whole person will be more appreciated by people than someone who is reputed to be a liar.
If to the above list we add not to point out the mistakes of people in public, congratulate and be happy with others for their achievements and remember small details of people as their birthday, color or favorite movie, this will make your Contact list is longer than a phone book.
Of course, it is not at all simple, but you can start by being aware and taking small steps to help us improve our interpersonal and leadership relationships.