All parents are afraid for their children – this is absolutely normal and natural. But in matters relating to their safety, it is very important not to go to extremes. A child should understand that it is impossible to get into a car to an unfamiliar uncle, but he should not live with the fear that every stranger wants to kill him, kidnap, and poison, rob. In other words, it is important to cultivate in him a sufficient understanding of the rules of one’s own security along with confidence in the world around and comfort from being present in it. In this article, we will try to deal with the key fundamentals of behavior that a child should learn.
Literate behavior with strangers on the street
This is the main group of rules of conduct since it is on the street that children have the most chances to meet strangers who, one way or another will contact them. Here it is important to tell the child the following:
- You cannot talk to strangers. Communication with strangers on the street is permissible only in the presence of parents, with their consent and under their supervision. Any contact with such people should be through parents.
- You cannot allow strangers to drive themselves away or take them away by car, under any pretext. Even if the uncle or aunt says that he does this at the request of the parents. If mom and dad really ask someone stranger to a child to take him somewhere, they will warn him about it and introduce them in advance. There can be no other situations.
- You should not take things from strangers, including treats. Even if they seem friendly, and the gifts they offer are harmless. If the baby so much wants candy or a toy that was offered to him by a stranger, then it is better to ask mom and dad to buy him the same one.
- You can not tell strangers your address, phone number, information about parents. For whatever reason, they asked for this data. The exceptions to the rule are police officers, doctors, teachers, to whom the child can turn for help in an unforeseen situation.
- You can not leave the school or kindergarten with a stranger. Even if he, again, says that he came for the child at the request of his parents. Parents should warn about such things and in advance acquaint the child with those who ask for such a favor.
- The above rules of behavior work even if a stranger gives a child to talk on the phone, allegedly with mom or dad, who will confirm his words. You can try to call your parents from your own phone (if your child already has one), but in general, any strangers who will be entrusted to take him somewhere or take him away should be warned personally.
- Do not agree to the proposals in any way to spend time with a stranger. For example, go to the movies (or play in it), to an amusement park, to the store. In any place and at any event it is better to go with your parents.
- If a suspicious person is walking next to the child, it is better to step aside, let him go ahead. You can go to any home and wave your hand, looking at the windows, call on the names of relatives. If a person does not lag behind, it is worth going to a crowded place and calling parents to come and take the child home. In the absence of the phone, you can contact the police.
- It is necessary to come back home before dark, avoiding deserted vacant lots, squares and parks. If suddenly the child cannot return home during the daytime – you need to move around as much as possible to the lighted and populous places, and the best thing is to call your relatives so that they meet and take home.
- If a car brakes near a child, it is necessary to move away from it (and again: never get into it, unless it is the parents’ car, and one of them is not driving).
How to behave in the elevator and staircase?
Many people live in apartment buildings, which, under unfavorable circumstances, can also be a source of danger for the child (as well as for an adult). A child should be taught from childhood to the following rules of behavior:
- Do not enter the elevator with a stranger or unfamiliar person. It is better to skip it forward and wait until you have the opportunity to go up in the elevator alone or with friends. In theory, climbing the stairs could be an alternative. But if you are quite restless on the stairs (for example, neighbors can sit with cigarettes and a bottle of beer), then it is better to teach the child to wait for the elevator.
- If the child is still in the elevator with a stranger, you need to stand facing or sideways (not your back, that is, you need to be able to follow his actions). At the slightest suspicion, you should press the button of the nearest floor and exit. If this was not possible – you need to click on the call button of the dispatcher.
- You should not enter the staircase if a suspicious stranger follows the child, or open the door to your apartment if the suspicious stranger is at the entrance. It is better to wait until it can be done without witnesses causing concern.
- Being in an apartment, under no circumstances should you open the door to strangers? Whoever they are: policemen, neighbors, employees of the gas service. Talking about the absence of parents at home is also not worth it – it is better to simply ignore them, and just in case call adults.
The child should also talk about the following rules of behavior that are common to all situations:
- All suspicious cases must be reported to parents, teachers, in case of emergency – to call the police.
- If a child is attacked or held in power, trying to lead or take away, you need to make as much noise as possible, run away to crowded places, turn to other adults or neighbors (best of all – to specific people, so the probability of getting help will be higher).
- If a stranger has attacked a child, his main task is to make noise, fight back, attract the attention of other people. But do not fight, especially if the attacker has a weapon. In the worst situation, when the child was taken hostage, it is necessary, on the contrary, to be silent and execute everything that is required of him.
- You need to understand that all these rules are focused on the worst case possible. They do not mean that every stranger wants to attack a child – they only mean that such a probability exists. And since it exists, you need to protect yourself with the right behavior.
These rules must be transformed into habits that will be in the order of things for the child. But for this to happen, it is not enough to repeat them once or twice. Keep conversations with your child about these nuances in behavior with strangers systematically, until you feel that he really remembered and learned them. But try not to go too far: each time explain that these are precautionary measures for the worst case, use calm intonations. Do not develop a child’s premonition of catastrophe and concomitant anxiety, but give him effective tools to ensure their own safety.